Whatever !

So, I watched this movie "Manmarziyaan" today as my random YT browsing led me to this movie recently. Was surprised, I didn't know until then that this 2018-released movie existed.

Completed watching it a while ago. So, the title translates to "Wishes of the heart" or may I say, "Whatever is the wish of the heart". But this movie is like "Whatever"...I mean like W H A A T E V V E R! Really? Is one's heart so hopeless that it wanders in whichever direction it wants? Pyaar aur dil kaa kuch mathlab hee nahin hotha hain? This is one of the shittiest senseless (in order to sound decent) stories I came across, I'd say. And this was not even a movie in "fiction" genre or some period movie which might have made sense at a different time. I don't know in which time and space this movie makes sense.

Quickly checked the headlines of the reviews after I watched the movie. So, they go on to say it is a different take at love and relationships. Really? Is this a love story at all? Isn't it an out and out story of lust? With all the three people involved there? Love and Lust are two different things, people! They are not one and the same.

I can at least understand the characters of Rumi & Vicky (played by Taapsee Pannu & Vicky Kaushal), but I can't, for the life of me, understand the role of Robbie. Like, you know two people are (apparently) madly in love (or let's say, in an affair) and then you come in between and even before they can make up their mind and decide either which way, you consciously try to break it up and then marry the girl? Ok done, it makes sense until here at least. But then, later you be so nice to a person who is not at all interested in you? Who on earth does that? Ok granted until here. You then go further and tell your wife, "You STILL have a choice!" What on earth does THAT mean? You could have given that choice before marriage, right? You could have let them be, give them their time and then let them decide.

But no, that isn't gonna happen right? Not here, at least in this story! These are two people who cannot decide forever. The guy is a commitment phobe and the girl decides so fast, that she changes her mind every now and then even in the eleventh hour. So Mr. Robbie, the saviour steps in and decides for them. Decides for all the three in fact and somehow marries the girl.

Mr. Robbie asks his Mom, "How can you decide that the girl is a trouble just by looking at the pictures?" I ask him instead, "How then did you decide that you love the girl and that you want to lead the rest of your life with her, just by looking at those very pics?" At one point of the movie, after knowing that his wife cheated on him, he bursts out (JUST for a moment) as he should. And next day, he says, "Sorry for yesterday! I overstepped." And thaat moment, I tell you, that moment, the movie got on to my nerves. Seriously, who should apologize whom dude?

There's something seriously wrong with the human race itself. I'm tired of these stories where people are extra nice to those who don't give them a damn...and on the contrary do not value enough, nice people. So there is nothing nice, nothing good or bad...It's all manmarziyaan...There's something seriously eccentric with this "mann" of the human race and it's probably time this eccentricity is fixed or I will go crazy now!

This trait of trying to spoil things to invite pain, running after those who are running away from you, loving something that is elusive to you - this is something out and out eccentric, but apparently normal to those who do this. As for me, love is when two people can open up to each other and be honest, be able to spend time with each other, be able to lead their lives with each other. Sure, in reality these eccentric people do not get married to their elusive lovers, but they still seem to be clinging to them. I can only pity them, what else can I do.

Anyway, coming back to the movie. The role of Robbie does step in much to save the other two roles, otherwise they might have been on a different hyperbole (who knows anyway!) So, what should have happened before marriage, happens after marriage. Actually, this guy Robbie was determined to live with Rumi, so he does it, he did not have a better choice. Just that, the way it is shown to happen, seems so senseless...as if marriage doesn't hold any value. Actually, that's not the case in reality coz most ppl do value marriage. They respect it or at least fear it (given the value society places on it). In fact, people in society respect marriage so much that they start disrespecting love*. But in this movie, marriage loses it's meaning like never before. Just remove marriage out of the equation and the picture does begin to make some sense.

(*I often wondered, isn't there a middle way in reality. As in, if one falls out of love with their spouse, and find somebody whom they truly love, can't they end the marriage in an amicable way, thereby respecting both the marriage and love.)

The acting of the lead actors, music and other technical expertise was definitely wasted on this story. But then, that's what movies are. They bring on to celluloid any story...just about any random fancy of human brain. And in that sense, this movie is a great job. It does bring out the fancy in a great way. I wonder if there is a better way to portray it.

A great dialogue is also wasted on this story. But some YouTuber made a great use of it anyway :)

There's a great deal of pain and suffering on earth in general, and more so when it comes to relationships. And that's such a pity, such a shame, for it's people who make a great (twisted and complicated) deal of simple things in life.

The only thing that made sense to me in the movie was its climax. Some sensible 10 minutes after 2 hours of senseless drama. And oh yeah, the line that runs in the trailers makes great sense too - "Love isn't complicated. People are!"

And yes, for all her baggage is worth, Rumi in the movie was redeemed with a few answers and just a simple friend request at the end, how easy!

And it's over!

Oh yeah! This deserves an entry in my blog. Can't believe it's over. It happened yesterday, technically today, around 12:15 AM. Roughly 24 hours ago, that is! I'm finally done watching the "Friends" series 😐!!!

There's a long background to this, which I'd try and write it down here may be. "Friends" is something I have been watching for the past 2.5 years! Yeah, it wasn't something I was binge watching. It was something I was slowly assimilating, 20 mins a day. Because, it deserves to be taken that way!

During one of my conversations with one of my besties when I was deep down in despair and void, she suggested that I start watching "Friends" series. I usually don't take advice from others. Because, most of the times, I know what I want and what makes me happy. Also, she is not the usual kind who gives advice. And this suggestion coming from her is, sort of, not expected. I did not heed to it immediately. But in Dec 2019, around the time I shifted to Bangalore for my job, it randomly crossed my mind and I took Netflix subscription just for the sake of "Friends". And, I'm so glad I did.

This undoubtedly is one of the best things that happened to me in life. 99% of the times, I used to end my day with "Friends". And yes, this period includes my 2 years of MBA too. No matter how late, I used to end my day with it. And what a great way to end it. Pure, unadulterated friendship, with people living life with no inhibitions and ego. This is how humans are supposed to conduct themselves, I say. Do we really find it these days? As cliched as it might sound, gone are those days. And what I couldn't find, out in the world, I found it in this series.

Here's to the 2.5 years of "Friends"! :) 

Why capital punishment is only right!

So, a person commits rape and we simply hang him and kill him*? There's no mercy? No forgiving? One may ask! Not any random one, a bench of judges opines the same.

(*Don't call me a female chauvinist or sexist for not using "him or her" there. I haven't come across any instances of women raping men or other genders).

In a recent judgment, Supreme Court commuted the death sentence granted to a rapist, saying "Every sinner has a future".

What BS was that? If every sinner has a future, then what about their victims in the future? They don't need a future? It's not always about the vindication of the past victim (the one who suffered), it's also about the people in the future.

These buggers of so-called compassion (towards the undeserving) have lost it, along with the rapists. A few things from what they said:

"...the maximum punishment prescribed may not always be the determinative factor for repairing the crippled psyche of the offender." -- First & foremost, repairing the crippled psyche is not the primary motto of delivering justice. Sometimes repairing a fellow human is beyond the power of humans. I don't know which form of justice calls for commuting of death sentence. Going by punitive/retributive and even preventive justice, the capital punishment is very befitting for such cases.

This is not a normal instance of rape (And I don't imply that rape can be normal. It goes without saying that rape is an extremely abnormal act). It's a gruesome act of pedophilia where a 4 year old child was brutally raped and murdered! Even if it is an adult in the place of a child, the nature of the crime doesn't change suddenly. It is as ghastly as that. If they couldn't be moved by the suffering of a fellow human, they wouldn't be moved by that of a child either. They are just too insensitive and indifferent to differentiate all that.

Also, if one is looking at rehabilitation and repairing of the convict, many past instances show that rapists don't have the faintest of remorse . The Nirbhaya case is a glaring evidence for that. Same seems to be the case with the family members of the rapists, in general. They don't exhibit compassion either. Same case with the juvenile rapists. Aruna Shanbaug's case is another instance. She was sodomized and left in a vegetative state for the rest of her life and the person who committed it was not convicted of rape, as the laws then did not consider sodomy as rape. Years after the crime, the convict does seem to show remorse, but has a double-talk - on one hand he says he shall ask for forgiveness given his sins and on the other hand he says he did not commit the act he was accused of.

If gruesome rapes are on one end of the spectrum, cheating and raping women in the guise of love are at the other end. The death of the then budding actress Pratyusha in Feb 2002 was one such instance. As far as I can recall from the news back then, on the night of her death she went out along with her lover and his friends, but the news that was out was - it was a suicide pact between her and her lover, as their parents did not approve of their relationship. And that while she succumbed, he survived. There are some movies covering such incidents. (Sarpa Yagam (0:55:00 - 1:11:00), Telugu movie from 1991 to Ghatana (00:45:55 - 1:06:30), 2014 Telugu remake of a Malayalam movie). But how women respond to such incidents changed with time, as it should. From asking their father in the suicide note, to avenge the act, to avenging the act themselves. Movies aside, when it comes to real-life incidents, forget revenge and vindication, the culprits are not even brought to book. They get away with such incidents easily. The acts may not be as gruesome as those discussed in the previous para, but they are heart-breaking and life-destroying, to say the least. "Moving on" with life is not easy if the woman happens to be alive after rape, in such cases.

Coming back to the judgement discussed in the opening para, that a sinner should have a future too, the bench cited this: "Oscar Wilde has said - "The only difference between the saint and the sinner is that every saint has a past and every sinner has a future"." -- Really? Is that the only difference? If Oscar Wilde said that, then damn him and his thoughts, I say! He also said, "I can resist anything but temptation!" So what, I ask!

The voice against capital punishment has been on the rise in India for quite some time and it is not just with rape incidents. (Some very recent commutation orders here). I'd say all those people who have been raising their voices, have also been high on pseudo-compassion. Selective compassion, at that. Where the life of the affected/dead is not of concern, but only those of who are alive. It's like "being alive" is valued highly. People whose lives have been taken away or destroyed at all levels have no value, so to say. To damn with all of them. I reiterate (I said this in the past too, in my blog), the modern society has a very rudimentary understanding of punishment.

Your Honour! (Whoever it is, that is hearing me from above; Readers, please don't bother! Not addressing you here) With all the details submitted above, I unequivocally opine, believe and argue that Capital Punishment is the only right punishment in the above incidents and demand justice. I submit and rest my case here.

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A channeled message from my blog post from Feb 19, 2014, that did not go into my book - 

"ఎవరో ఒక మహానుభావుడు నాకు ఒక "Golden Idea" ఇచ్చాడు నాకు, మన మనసు లో ఉన్నవి వారికి స్వయంగా చెప్పవద్దట, బ్లాగ్ లో రాయాలట! ఇప్పుడు నేను చెప్పేది విని వాడు చస్తాడో, బ్రతుకుతాడో, చస్తూ బ్రతుకుతాడో, బ్రతుకుతూ చస్తాడో, వాడి ఇష్టం:

తూ! నీ బ్రతుకు చెడ!
పెళ్ళాం తో సంసారం చెయ్యలేని నీకు ఈ భవంతులు ఉంటే ఏంటి, ఊడితే ఏంటి? పెళ్ళెందుకు, పెళ్ళాం ఎందుకు? భార్య కల్ల ముందుకు స్వయం గా వచ్చి మాట్లాడనప్పుడు, ఆ భార్య తో నీకు పనేంటి? తన  నుంచి నువ్వు ఆసించేదేంటి? తన పట్ల కర్తవ్యమ్ నువ్వు నెరవేర్చనప్పుడు, తనతో పనేంటి నీకస్సలు?

ఏంట్రా, ఈ సివిలైజేషన్ అంతా ఆడవాళ్ళని మెప్పించడానికా?
ఎందుకురా ఆడవారి కన్నీటి మీద, క్షోభ మీద, ఈ భవిష్యత్తును నిర్మిస్తున్నారు?

ఇంకా ఏమంటున్నావు? తండ్రి తో పని లేదా నీకు?
నిజంగా మగాడివయితే , ఒక భర్త బాధ్యతను నిజంగా స్వీకరించి నేరవేర్చినప్పుడు, అప్పుడు తెలుస్తుంది నిజమైన తండ్రి బాధ్యత! ఏ యు.యస్  తప్పించి ఇంకో ప్రపంచం తెలీదా నీకు, చూడలేదా యూరప్ ని, చూడలేదా ఇండియా లో మంచి తండ్రులని? అయినా నీ లాంటి నిక్రుష్టల వలన కదూ, తండ్రి పాత్ర తగ్గుతూ వస్తుంది? అటు తండ్రి ని, ఇటు తల్లిని కష్ట పెడుతున్నారు!

ఇంకొక మాట, ఇంకొక్క మాట, ఈ సృష్టి గురించి గాని, ఈ సృష్టి స్థితి లయ కారణాల గురించి గాని, ఈ సృష్టి గమనాన్ని గురించి గాని మాట్లాడావో, నాకు నువ్వు మళ్ళీ కనిపిచ్చినప్పుడు చెప్పిచ్చుకుని కొడతాను. వాటి గురించి మాట్లాడే అర్హతని,  నా ద్రిష్టిలో నువ్వు ఎప్పుడో కోల్పోయావు! నీతి మాలిన కుక్క! నాకు ఇంతకంటే బూతులు రావు!

మనుషుల కర్మ ఫలాలను వారికి అంద జేయకుండా, వారికి సంప్రాప్తించ వలసిన మోక్షాన్ని వారికి అందనివ్వకుండా, వారి కుళ్ళు నుంచి, కుళ్ళు మనుషులను ఏర్పరిచి, ఒక కుళ్ళు సమాజాన్ని నువ్వు సృష్టిస్తే, ఆ కుళ్ళుని భరించే ఓపిక  గాని, అవసరం  గాని, ఇక్కడ ఎవరికీ లేదు. ఆ కుల్లేదో నువ్వే భరించు, ఆ  కుళ్ళులో, నువ్వు ఉంటావో, ఉండవో, బ్రతుకుతావో, చస్తావో నీ ఇష్టం. కానీ నీ బ్రతుకు వలన గాని, చావు వలన గాని, నాకు ఎటువంటి "ఫరక్" పడద్! Because YOU have been declared null and void!

If you thought the world needs to deteriorate further, for the judgement to be passed, that the last tree needs to be cut, that the last fish needs to be eaten, that the people should go insane and finally kill each other, then you are completely mistaken. This world is not Godless! The Gods know when and how to take the reins! The Universe will always try and evolve to its best possible state despite all the garbage dumped into it, it could be a zero state too, if you go any further on this small part of a huge system. We don't care if we are going towards a better or worse future from good or bad past as per YOUR parameters of development here on earth, but WE WOULD NOT LIKE TO SEE THIS KIND OF "PRESENT" here!!!"

- The Cosmic Consciousness & Energy speaking...