I've been wondering why I keep receiving all that pain looking for "little" empathy from people. And then I realize that actually nobody had the capacity to give me that empathy or whatever little warmth I was looking for. It's their incapacity, not their fault. What nobody can heal, time can heal...no matter how big the wound is. If I have to pass on some piece of wisdom to the next generation, it would be this - When you are in pain and if it doesn't heal despite all your effort, give it some time, not your thought and energy! No amount of justifying it, externalizing or even internalizing the blame would help. The culprit - you or the other or the situation - will eventually let itself out.